I wish someone had told me… Happiness is a choice… Misery is optional.

Happiness and Joy have kind of been my theme this week… you see… sometimes I can’t find my joy… sometimes it is buried down so deep under those days we don’t talk about very often… because when we are capable of talking about them… we remind ourselves not to dwell on them. The days that my head is clear enough for rational thought I choose happiness… misery is optional on those days… we all know someone who chooses misery… who is comfortable is wallowing in their own self loathing… or belief that nothing is good… that everything is against them… avoid them. It took me a long time to learn I could choose happiness… that wallowing in misery didn’t make me more poetic or beautiful… I’ve learned a lot… the hard way… Some of this I simply read somewhere… but I wish someone would have told me….

  • There are no grown-ups. We suspect this when we are younger… we were right.

  • Life is too short to have “Lunch” with people you don’t want to.

  • Life is too long to not take care of yourself… or at least your knees.

  • There are no soul mates… Not in the traditional sense, at least… and you will miss out on some near soul mates… this goes for friends as well.

  • To stop spending too little time with the right people

  • Chin Hair… it happens… and it isn’t the end of the world… Stop crying and Pluck that shit.

  • Stop.. I repeat Stop googling everything you are worried about. It does not help.

  • Start googling everything you are curious about… discover your passions.

  • Eight hours of continuous… unmedicated sleep is one of life’s great pleasures.

responsible for my own happiness Shout out to MamaKat and her awesome writing prompts this week!!! mama kats

16 comments on “I wish someone had told me… Happiness is a choice… Misery is optional.

  1. Lisa @ The Meaning of Me

    I love this one, Kerry – great prompt and a great list of items. Thought about doing this one – I may still. Haven’t decided just yet.
    Laughed out loud at the chin hair one – so true!
    And yes to that eight hours of sleep! So rare and so delicious!

    1. Kerry

      Yes! Do it! I want to read yours! Sooo much love and happiness to you and yours!

  2. Leigh @ Eat Clean. Live Dirty.

    I love this post! It reminds me of the quote: “If only we’d stop trying to be happy, we could have a pretty good time.”

    1. Kerry

      Exactly!!! Thanks for stopping by!!

  3. Cinella

    AMEN! There are so many miserable people… I just want to give them a hug!

    Cinella @ TMB

    1. Kerry

      We should hug them all!

  4. Kat

    Agree 100% on all of those. I, too, am learning that happiness is an option and that I don’t have to live by my emotions or live being affected by everyone’s misery around me!

    1. Kerry

      I love that! I love the ability to see that feelings aren’t right or wrong… They just are… It’s what we do with them that we can control. I mean it is always okay to not be okay…. And to talk about it to whomever we chose, but to spread it in angry self destructive gestures isn’t… To grow comfortable in that place and burrow down into it isn’t. Feeling it and getting support will foster a safe place to wait out the storm.

  5. Cookie Wife

    There are many miserable people out there and I’m TIRED of hugging them all! 😉 #gaveup #makingcookiesinstead

    1. Kerry

      I volunteer to receive cookies and hugs

  6. Kimberly Murphy

    “If you want to be happy, be.” -Leo Tolstoy. One of my favorite quotes; I’ve recently made this my life mantra!

    Awesome post 😀 Stopping by from Mama Kat’s!

    1. Kerry

      Love this!

  7. Kat

    So much great advice! You’ve inspired a blog post for me about happiness and I definitely feel the same way about the things you shared here. The idea of just one person being a soul mate is just silly to me. And I’m definitely guilty of googling passions AND symptoms. I can’t stop.

    1. Kerry

      Love it!

  8. Tammi @ Momma's Meals

    Great read!! Love the one about Life being too short to have lunch with someone you don’t want to!!! So true!

    1. Kerry

      Thanks! So glad you stopped by!